When I realised I was going to be a single mother, the world frightened me. I wasn’t ready to just be by myself or do anything alone. I had become so use to being a couple I had forgotten what it was like to even go shopping on my own. Yes, sometimes I would run up to Asda with Alice while her dad was in work but when I moved back into my parents and life fell apart it took me a year to even go out for a walk but now, I am able to take Alice swimming, for walks, shopping days and even baby groups without so much anxiety welling up inside me.
I thought as I know so many mums who have felt like this before, a good old fashion list of ideas would help do the trick! These are things I have done with Alice, starting off small we have come along way.
1. Get out and get some fresh air! Even playing in the garden can help a lot.
2. Take a mother and baby yoga or exercise group. This way you can meet new mums, your little one can play with babies their age and it’s exercise.
3. Go swimming. This might be a big step but your baby will love it, Alice was almost born in her sac so I always knew she was a water baby and she adores swimming. We go once a week for 45 minutes to an hour.
4. Have a ten minute dance party! Alice and I love this! They’re so much fun and of course if it’s before nap time, they nap!
5. Do some house work together. Now, I’m not saying hand your little one a sweeping brush but Alice loves taking washing out of the washing machine and putting it in the basket. We make it a game and I of course tell her what the clothes are and colours.
6. Go out for a coffee and a sandwich date with your baby and even meet up with some other mummies. Just being out can help and of course you can get your little one a baby hot chocolate.
7. Beach day!! I love a beach day, taking a camera, wearing warm clothes if it’s winter and getting a cone of chips by the sea. The fresh air is wonderful and it does help you relax.
8. I love movie days, especially Disney movie days. I don’t always think it’s good to eat to much bad food but a pizza and some pop is always good to add to your movie day. Plus this is a bit of bonding time for you and your little one.
9. Visit family. This is an easy one and of course we should all make time for family. I try to visit as many family members a month as I can and since moving this has proven a little bit difficult but we still do it.
10. Go for a walk, even in the rain. Wellies, rain coats and hats! Alice loves puddles like any small child and of course it can be fun for us adults to.
I know everyone has their own baby steps to take and trust me I have been there and I have faded back in before. We mums will get there! And I know you can, in the words of Dory, just keep swimming.