Can we just talk about the above statement for a moment? A few weeks ago I gave Dancing Guy the boot as its awful when you are trying to start anything with anyone and its all one sided and when I mentioned to friends of mine, their responses were “Well he served his purpose”. And that statement got me thinking…
What is the purpose of a fling when you’ve come out of a long-term relationship. Is it to prove to yourself you’re able to move on? Is it to make you feel better? Is it just for sex? Or a rebound?
I have never been one to not enjoy my own company, I’m too awesome 😉 Jokes. But I do know what I like and what I don’t. Granted it sucks being a single mum and knowing all your mates get to go out, have the freedom you long for sometimes and they get to have date nights. Whereas if I want a date I have to have a week notice and pray I can get childcare.
I started back on Tinder again and I’ve already had bad experiences and only one good. So the odds aren’t really in my favour as of yet but I will say as you get older and are reaching your 26th year and have a child, you can afford to be picky and know what you want.
I might feel alone some nights and want a cuddle or to fall asleep in someone’s arms but I think every human being gets like that sometimes. I still have those moments though when I’m alone, baby free and dancing around in my underwear just as I did when I was 16.
Getting ready for myself or to go out is bliss when you are enjoying yourself, loving who you are becoming and accepting the way your life is now.
I didn’t know how important self-confidence was and how attractive it can be on a bloke until recently. I guess that comes with age and experiences as well.
I guess I just wanted to post this up to let you know that everything is 100% fine. Finally. I feel better about myself and I have reached that final step of grief and that is Acceptance. And it is wonderful. You should try it sometime 😉
Oh and I joined a gym… More on that another time.